Let's Be Real...

Four years ago when I moved back to Florida, an old friend of mine gave me a set of pictures that she'd taken 2 years prior when I'd come to visit after having my first child, as I looked at these pictures of myself and 2 of my oldest friends standing side by side, I realized "I'm the fat girl." I think karma's a bitch and the things you say in life about others or how you will never be "like that", come back to give you a swift kick in the aft and let you feel the pain that your dirty looks, awkward stares, and rude comments made others feel.

I remember many times of walking through the mall or out at the movies with friends and seeing a big girl walk past and we'd all stare for a moment, then make comments to each other "Wow! Someone should eat a salad." "Did you see how tight her jeans were! She should not be wearing those, that's just gross." "If I ever get that big, slit my wrists for me." We would laugh and go on about whatever we were doing, not thinking twice about what our comments (which we always assumed the other person couldn't hear) or our stares made her feel.

Karma decided to castrate my 'mean girl' attitude! I've now experienced those comments, stares, underlying snide remarks that are said in the sweetest way with a dirty cut throat meaning. The 'mean girl' now has to eat her words, and lemme tell ya, they taste like pickle juice and monkey nuts covered in tar flavored gravy.

I won't say that I still don't have 'mean girl' tendencies, but now they're more so directed at the skinny girls! "Someone feed that girl a Big Mac!" I know it's wrong, but I believe it's part of human nature to judge others, even when we know it's wrong and could be hurtful.

Perfect example:
Sunday sitting outside Starbucks with my best friend, a girl walks through the parking lot in a gray clingy dress and high heels, 1 problem the skirt was REALLY short. Quietly we commented to each other that she should have worn different panties, because you could see every detail, about a minute later another lady walks out of Starbucks with her young teenage daughter, and says very loudly, "WoW! You can practically see that girl's vag!" My best friend and I couldn't help but laugh, because let's be real, we were both thinking the same thing, but trying to be nice about it, in only discussing the panty issue. My best friend said "To each their own, I guess."

She's right. We can all sit back and judge, but no one's perfect, all that really matters is how we feel about ourselves. While my best friend thinks she should lose 10 lbs, I would kill to have a body like hers, girls are going in to get breast implants to have big boobs while I sit back and wish I could be their perfect size C, some blondes wants to be brunettes, some fat girls want to be skinny, in the end everyone has something they don't like about themselves, so who are we to judge them and point out their flaws (major or minor)?

So while it's human nature to judge or make an observation about someone's appearance, attitude, or way of life, we need to remember that the things we say about others can hurt, and those same people we are judging are probably judging us back.

Ok...I'm done rambling, now let's all hold hands and sing Hakuna Matata together.